The way we talk to clients is very important and can impact our experiences. Try not to say “no” or use words that make the client feel judged. Avoid conflicts that stem from a client’s guilt or shame. For example, instead of saying “no” to anal intercourse, say something hot and cliché like “I want to feel your cock in my pussy.”

Figure out what services you’re comfortable with and make sure you know how to communicate this in an assertive, but non-aggressive way.

Clients don’t like hearing “no” or seeing that a worker is uncomfortable or tense. It creates stress, and stress between a worker and a client can lead to violence. Try to firmly lead the client to a comfortable service experience.

Of course, it doesn’t always work since for some clients, conflict is what they are actually seeking.